Love is all you need...
Love, love, love...
Valentines Day 2016
It conquers all and is the best medicine (or that may be laughter...); what ever it means to you, it is celebrated on February 14th every year. The un-official holiday of romance, which started out as a christian feast-day celebrating secret marriages, has transformed into a commercialized guilt-trip for lovers all over the world.
So do I love Valentines day? This may come as a surprise to you judging by the above picture, but no I don't! I do like it, but I never used to. As a kid, it was cute. I would send valentines to unwitting boys in my class which were met with an inevitable "ewwww". As an adolescent, it was a terrible reminder my awkwardness and how superficial our little school-subculture could be. My only high-school valentine was my friend from another school, who sent me a text asking me one year and did not actually see me at all on the day.
My boyfriend is away on a guys-tip, which has unfortunately fallen over Valentines Day this year. This is of course, not a big deal. I have missed much more important occasions like our anniversary and birthdays when I was away! But it was hard not to feel left out as the day seemed to be more in-my-face compared to previous years. I work in the party section of a department store, so I was surrounded by roses, chocolates, teddy bears, heart-motifs, you name it! I even spent the majority of V-day inflating 100 red and white balloons, there was no escaping!
I could finally understand how some people feel the pressure to shower their partner with gifts, and how alienated single people must feel! Between all the build-up and marketing, the flower vans on the side of the road all day and the radio DJ's playing only love songs...its tough out there if you're "alone"! This made me miss my boyfriend more and more, and made me feel annoyed that he didn't acknowledge the day with a gift or a card when I had sent both off with him in his suitcase two weeks before (sorry if you're reading this babe). Of course I came to my senses after my little pity-party. He doesn't need one day a year to show me he loves me, he does that in so many ways every day. It was purely the hype and marketing causing a problem, not him. To overcome this, I kept reading the adorable text he had sent me, looked forward to my evening plans and was cheered up by a good friend who surprised me with a rose and a balloon (Thank you @sarahtilleke01).
|I added Sarah's rose and balloon to a flower arrangement from our garden.|
To all the cynics out there, you don't need one day a year to show your significant other you love them, true. However I believe Valentines Day is the kick in the booty we all need to stop being complacent in our relationships. Take that trip you've been talking about, or carve out time to spend with each other you don't normally get because we're all so busy. Using the excuse "it's Valentines Day" is likely to free you from other obligations and make people leave you two love birds alone!
You don't have to focus on material items. Buying someone a teddy or an expensive flower arrangement doesn't prove that you love them. Sure its romantic! But when we're together, my boyfriend and I like to use the day to slow down, indulge and enjoy each other's company. Our first year together I whipped up some macrons, brownies and chocolate covered strawberries, he presented me with some malteasers and a small bunch of roses, and we spent the afternoon ice skating. Our second year, we packed a picnic and watched the giants roam around Perth City. All very low key, affordable and memorable.
The day doesn't have to solely be about romantic love either! What if everyone spread love all at once one day a year. I feel like if everyone just paused for a day and limited negativity and hate...maybe the world slowly become a better place. Sorry for my corny, new age twenty-something optimism...but maybe there's something to that?